Every once in a while I am asked the question, “How do I break the grip of a certain unnamed sin?” It could be any one of a number of sins but the answer is the same. All you need to do is die. No, I am not saying that you have to die physically but I am saying that you have to die to the control of the flesh demands. You see there are two natures within the Christian, the lower nature called the flesh and the spiritual nature we call the spirit. Galatians 5:17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. There is a war going on all the time. The flesh hates the things of God and the Spirit resists the things of the flesh. If I decide to follow the cravings of the flesh, the Spirit will convict me, and if I decide to follow the Spirit, the flesh will cry out like a whining baby. The more the flesh gets its way the more it will demand because the flesh is wholly and completely given to sin. When the Spirit wins the battle, the flesh is subdued and the fallen nature will yield to the Spirit.
This fight is to the death. You cannot hope to settle the conflict with a compromise or by trying to be fair because the flesh does not fight fair. You cannot win by fighting with will power because that is governed by the flesh. Trying harder is a recipe for failure. Determination will not win either for that is the effort of the mind which is controlled by the flesh. The truth is that no matter how hard you try and whatever method you use, you will not win this way because the your personal strength is not sufficient to break the bonds of sin. There is only one way to win and that is to die to the strength of the flesh. That includes any and all methods of self effort. Since you cannot win by the flesh, you must be delivered from a power that is greater than the force that binds you.
Note what it says in the previous verse Galatians 5:16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. The only way to be successful is to walk in the Spirit and He will guide you. If you are going to trust the Spirit you cannot your own formula to it, though that is just what the flesh will try to get you to do. Romans 6:6 Knowing this, that our old man is crucified with him, that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth we should not serve sin. There it is, the answer that so often eludes the one caught in a repeating sin and cannot find their way out. The old nature must die.
The death of the old man (nature) is imposed upon you by the work of God in bringing you to the point of distrust and despite of the old man. Notice that this death is by crucifixion and not by suicide. God will do the work of destroying the old nature while we trust Him and not ourselves. The end result is the death of the old man which frees us from its grip and now we can serve God. Ro 6:7 For he that is dead is freed from sin. Ro 6:12 Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof. Ga 5:18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law. Ga 5:24 And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. 1Peter 1:5 Who are kept by the power of God through faith unto salvation ready to be revealed in the last time.